Does absence make the heart grow fonder? Or is it more a case of out of sight, out of mind? Should you and your partner give each other space, or spend every possible moment together? To find out, give the statements below a rating between 1 (not at all true) and 6 (very true), and have your partner do the same.
Take the average to find your “differentiation of self” score (higher = more independent) and have your partner do the same. Now, how different were your scores? (a) less than 2 points = birds of a feather; (b) 2-3 points = in between; (c) 4-5 points = chalk and cheese. If you are an (a) or to a lesser extent a (b) then there is some good news. A recent study at the University of Lisbon found couples with more similar differentiation of self scores experienced higher levels of sexual desire, and were more satisfied with their relationship generally. If you said (c), then don’t worry – there are always exceptions – but your relationship may run more smoothly if you bear these differences in mind.
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